Sunday, November 06, 2011

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So, you lose your job, unfairly as you perceive it, and you're angry.
Understandably so.
You decide to vent, publicly.
Understandable still, but perhaps not the smartest thing to do.
You say or write things about the situation and about your boss, and how you got screwed over.
Still okay.
Okay, that is, until you throw in the racial epithet.

Those who follow sports may realize I'm talking about the ongoing Tiger Woods / caddie Steve Williams saga. Details here.

Yes, but that's not all. On the very same day that story appeared, I came across a Facebook posting from a "friend" who, coincidentally, had also been recently fired.

She's young, probably about 24 now, and worked briefly with me about three years ago before going back to school. We kept loosely in touch on Facebook.

She wrote that she was angry at being "let go" before her trial three months was over. She felt she hadn't been given enough feedback, wasn't given a chance to improve, and wasn't treated fairly by her "Jew boss".

I almost couldn't believe my eyes.

I kept reading and after a little more ranting she came back to that, saying it was the second time she'd had a Jewish boss and they were the worst, and she's sorry for saying it but she feels better now.

I'm glad she does, I feel like shit.

There were only a few comments, one from a Jewish friend who tried to make light of her remarks, to which she replied, "ha ha you're Jewish but I love you anyway."

I couldn't take any more, and unfriended her on the spot.

I'm a bit sorry now because I'm curious about how that thread may or may not have evolved, but it's really irrelevant.
People obviously say things in anger that they wouldn't say when calm. I get that. It's just too bad that racism has to enter into it, still, in the 21st century.
Maybe I'm naive but I thought this sort of thing just wasn't publicly acceptable anymore.

It's also too bad that when a trait is seen as negative (such as being a tough boss) it's automatically attributed to the entire population in question; but when it's something positive (such as being a good guy) it's an exception.

And the "love you anyway"? I can't even begin to deal with that.

I'm disappointed in my young former friend and in a society that is evolving, but oh so slowly.

As for Steve Williams, I have to hand it to him, I didn't think it was possible to turn my sympathy back towards Tiger, but he did it.
Well, at least a little.